FAQ
IS IT WORTH the investment?
You are ALREADY probably spending a lot of money to cope with your pain, unmet desires and frustrating relationships, whether you’re aware of the connection to your mental health, or not. Eating out when you didn’t plan for it, daily coffee or treats, impulse shopping, convenience food, repeatedly covering for friends… all of it adds up. Most of it is spent on band-aids to soothe uncomfortable feelings.
These are often temporary fixes that never resolve the source of your pain or satisfy your deeper longings. Meanwhile, you’re losing energy, focus, and even your earning potential from stress, guilt, codependency, and conflict instead of investing energy into opportunities to grow, create, and thrive. Lack of satisfaction can be a very expensive lifestyle… and not in a fun way.
How much of your life is quietly drained by unhappiness? How many weekends are lost scrolling or numbing instead of starting that side hustle, finishing a project, or doing something you actually enjoy? How many mornings feel impossible to get moving and feel up to setting goals for the day because of depression, anxiety, or resentment?
Every day you cope instead of heal is costing you—emotionally and financially.
After EMDR many clients notice these changes, without actively trying:
More confidence to ask for what they truly deserve at work, instead of holding back
Fewer impulse buys and less spending on convenience foods, freeing up both money and mental space
Energy returning for side projects, hobbies, and passions—sometimes even turning into real income
Healthier relationships and stronger boundaries, plus freedom from guilt that recharges them, helping them feel excited to pursue goals, try new things, and enjoy life when home feels steadier and more secure
Improvements toward a healthier weight and eating habits
EMDR often results in a lot of unexpected benefits. Financial ones are just one of many others. When you heal unresolved wounds that your entire life has been formed around, the great news is that many areas of your life become easier. For example, you may notice you enjoy social settings and laugh more often, even though that’s not something you were specifically addressing and hadn’t even realized you were missing.
Are you qualified?
Healing isn’t something most of us know how to do instinctively. Often, what we think helps us can actually make things worse.
Learning how to heal, and how to guide others through it, resulted from over 10,000 hours of emdr therapy sessions.
That includes hours spent using EMDR in therapy sessions, plus in-depth evaluations of what worked, what didn’t, and why. I’ve also invested in countless hours of advanced training and expert consultations, continually refining my approach to ensure the best results.
As a result, I can now accomplish in one therapy hour what used to take me several hours across months.
This level of efficiency comes from years of hands-on experience, ongoing learning, and mastery of the process.
The value of your investment is enhanced by the years I’ve spent learning how to help you efficiently.
With the knowledge and skills I’ve built over time, you benefit from faster, more effective healing in a condensed timeframe, which ultimately means you’ll pay less overall. Instead of weeks or months of treatment, you get the results in less time.
A skill I’ve worked hard to develop, and one I credit for much of my efficiency, is knowing what not to spend time on. You’ve been alive for many years, and there are countless important topics we could discuss. I’ve learned, however, that I have to be very intentional about not getting distracted by issues that aren’t the most essential to focus on right now.
My approach is to give you the best results while incorporating just enough work on your part that it’s manageable, allowing you to heal without becoming overwhelmed. There’s a delicate balance between the accelerator and the brake, and I actively assess that to guide each next step in our work.
My commitment to you is to make each minute we spend together the most meaningful use of your time and investment. You might be surprised but just a few days of intensive therapy can fly by quickly, so it’s crucial to have a refined sense of which topics will give you the biggest return, and which can wait.
why do you talk more about emdr than flash?
Flash Technique is incredible! It can quickly relax your nervous system and produce results, which is why I often recommend it for people looking for immediate relief, especially when they want to heal from and integrate painful memories without being overwhelmed by them.
However, I’ve found that it doesn’t always offer the same depth of healing that EMDR can provide. While Flash is excellent for desensitizing difficult memories through detachment during treatment, EMDR takes healing a step further by helping clients make sense of those memories and understand how they’ve influenced their lives, giving more control back to the client.
EMDR offers those “aha” moments and the opportunity to reframe traumatic events in a deeply satisfying and transformative way that feels more comprehensive to me. In cases where clients want to avoid confronting certain memories, Flash is a great option, and definitely my favorite approach many times. What I often prefer is using Flash, as a way to support EMDR, combining the best of both worlds!
what will i experience after an intensive?
Initially, you may feel emotional, relaxed or energized, depending what part of you is healing.
Within the next month or so, you may experience feelings you have not experienced in this way. They may seem surprising. This is a sign that you are more integrated and connected with yourself (where maybe previously you had dissociated more to cope with painful memories). It is natural to experience grief and sadness about memories that were too painful to process when you were younger. Now, you may grieve some losses that you had been previously less aware of as you may have been coping in other ways (anger, substances, shutting down, etc). After accepting and and grieving losses, it will often feel easier to experience more happiness and enjoy positive memories that were previously more difficult to access . Memories may spontaneously surface which you hadn’t thought about in many years or ever.
Often people may notice that things just don’t bother them as much as they used to. For example, you may be driving and think “I haven’t felt anxiety while driving for a few months now. That’s weird. I used to feel it every time.” or after seeing something that used to really bother you, you may notice you’re just more laid back and less irritated about it now and notice that you didn’t lose your temper like you used to and can think more clearly about how to handle it now. Often people feel less urges for addictions, more excitement to try new things, more self love and compassion, and empathy for those around you. Some people may also experience anger as they become more aware of things they’ve previously been detaching from. Some realize they’ve been mistreated and never fully worked through that. Anger is a natural part of confronting this part of life. As you are more present and aware of different aspects of your life, your judgement about your next steps will become more clear. This may be uncomfortable in some ways, but allows you to be more connected to your desires that may have been suppressed. These shifts make it easier to live more intentionally and have less resentful with your life. As you see more clearly, it will be more obvious which choices will lead you closer to the life you want.